Ephesians 2:3: “Among whom also we all had our conversation in times past in the lusts of our flesh, fulfilling the desires of the flesh and of the mind; and were by nature the children of wrath, even as others.”
“Among whom” – Who is that? It is children of disobedience. The context is about them. Saved Christians were also once children of disobedience since we had a past that was ungodly and fleshly.
“Fulfilling the desires of the flesh and the mind” – Everything we talked about was according to lust. This lust satisfies how our flesh and mind feel and think. But, unfortunately, our minds and flesh are wicked instruments that we use for sin. After we got saved, many things needed to change. Sometimes it takes years to overcome sin.
“And were by nature the children of wrath” – Notice here that nature. This is a law of nature that we are all sinners. That is something the world will never comprehend. The problem with psychology is that they keep making it that deep inside mankind, they are good people. No, that is not true! By nature, man is not good but evil. The full completeness of human nature is that we have a conscience and wickedness. Psychology underestimates the wickedness.
Psychology is the study of the soul. “psych” is not an English word; it is Greek, and it means soul. “ology” means simply “study of”. The soul contains conscience, mind, thinking, feeling, etc. The thing is that, through free choice, one can keep defiling their conscience. That is why Christians say homosexuality is not birthed. It is a choice. Since everyone has a conscience within them. They make choices that keep defiling their conscience because they underestimate that their flesh is wicked. One can choose either good or evil.
Yes, there might be something good in a human being. People do have a conscience, with a good intention where they want to benefit human society. However, they have a wicked part in their nature which is what justifies them. So, when they keep committing acts of wickedness, they use the free choice to keep justifying their wickedness since they have a conscience in them.
When a person has a free choice to choose an action based on their wickedness, before their conscience, their conscience dies down. For example, everyone can agree that if one steals something from a store for the first time, they will feel horrible. But, if one steals many times, the conscience feeling of guilt dies down. Perhaps, they will justify their acts of stealing by saying things such as, “He will not notice, so it will not hurt him.”
Romans 2:3: “For when the Gentiles, which have not the law, do by nature the things contained in the law, these, having not the law, are a law unto themselves:”
Looking at Ephesians 2:3 again, “…the children of wrath, even as others,” the original human nature is a child of the devil. All of us are born with wickedness, and God reserves that for wrath.
Many will ask, “If He is a God of love, why will he send people to hell?” The answer is that you are not a child of love but a child of wrath! So, if you’re burning in hell forever, how can God stomach a person screaming in torture forever, wailing and begging God to get him out?
It is simple, God is balanced. He is 100% perfect pure God in His attributes. He has to make it 100% pure and perfect anger/wrath. If He is 99% wrath, then He is only 99% perfect in His attributes. But God is 100% perfect in all His attributes. He is also 100% perfect love.
Which side do you want to be on?