God’s intent was never for us to be alone.
Genesis 2:18 And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.
This is because being alone can lead to idleness. An idle mind is the devil’s workshop, it allows plenty of negative and wicked thoughts to run in our mind. This will make us more susceptible to Satan’s attack.
2 Corinthians 10:5 Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of God, and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ;
This explains why depression occurs in people, which usually develop a consistent pattern of negative thoughts and behavior. It also builds up an attitude that is prone to complain, a stage of awkwardness, and loss of confidence. It also tends to remove faithfulness in Bible believers too so to speak.
Not everyone may develop symptoms as above when going through loneliness, but it is quite prevalent, even in the Bible-believing heroes stated in the Bible.
Hence it is important for us to develop methods to overcome these symptoms or to handle loneliness with wisdom. First, we need to understand whether if it’s relationship or fellowship, God definitely wants us to have partners.
Hebrews 10:25 Not forsaking the assembling of ourselves together, as the manner of some is; but exhorting one another: and so much the more, as ye see the day approaching.
The Bible commands us to go to church, so that we can fellowship, exhorting and encouraging one another. We clearly understand that not everyone at Church will be 100% righteous, but we can still leverage one another’s spiritualness, grow together, or learn from one another.
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Mark 1:35 And in the morning, rising up a great while before day, he went out, and departed into a solitary place, and there prayed.
Sometimes loneliness can be wisely treated as isolation from the world to give us some ‘me-time’ with our Heavenly Father. This allows us to completely shut out all the fleshly distractions; open our spiritual closet and fellowship with God.
Subsequently, our relationship with God increases when there’s no distraction from the world. Even with false religions like Buddhism and Catholicism, the monks and priests believe that solitary practice or mindfulness will take them closer to their God.
Unfortunately, it still leads to the wrong salvation plan despite their zealousness and wanting to close to their God. But this comes to show that, everyone who is spiritual will tend to practice isolation in order to want to get close to God. So we Christians should really take comfort in the fact that isolation is beneficial for our communion with God, that one true God.
Proverbs 18:24 A man that hath friends must shew himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother.
One thing with being a Bible-believer is that sometimes, we may be too straightforward, or overzealous that we may be nitpicky or come across as fault finding at times. Nonetheless, we need to know that if we are that righteous and spiritual, the wrong kind of people will eventually leave us automatically, we don’t even need to start a war with them. Let God separate them from us instead.
It is still important for us to be friendly, even to lost people. Only under certain circumstances like if we are surrounded by bad influences or wrong doctrines, then we should be quick to separate ourselves.
Even Jesus Christ hang around with publicans and sinners so that He could lead them to salvation.
Paul also mentioned in 1 Corinthians 10 that if a lost sinner bids us go to the feast, we ought to attend as long as it’s done for the glory of God. This is telling us that we should still spend time with our relatives, or friends. Otherwise, how are we going to win their souls to Christ or even to show our testimony?
1 Timothy 6:17 Charge them that are rich in this world, that they be not highminded, nor trust in uncertain riches, but in the living God, who giveth us richly all things to enjoy;
Regardless of who we are, God gives us this life in this world for us to enjoy. Of course, there are plenty of activities that we can do as a group with family and friends. Yet there are also plenty of benefits of solitude and we should really take advantage of that. We can actually do so much more for God, or even to pick up a new skill for self-improvement.
Isolation can be a benefit if we know how to use it wisely. We can learn this from Paul in 1 Corinthians 7. God does not want us to be alone. There are still some trade-offs with having a family. It means we have more things to take care of, and that may hinder us from serving God fully.
Both isolation and companionship have pros and cons. We should not only associate isolation with negatives, that is not true.
We should do our best to not associate isolation with idleness, they are not the same.